As Obama's senior year drew to a close, his mother sent him letters from afar, about life in Indonesia and her work there with non-profit groups doing economic development. "He would protect the smaller ones." 'When you're president, everybody wants something from you and only these types of friends are able to simply want your well-being. He describes making friends easily, becoming fluent in Indonesian in just six months and melding quite easily into the very foreign fabric of Jakarta. 2023 TIME USA, LLC. Another story put forth in "Dreams" as one of Obama's pivotal moments of racial awakening checks out essentially as he wrote it. One of the neatest things is that he has promoted family, he said. "He lived across the street from school and before classes hed shoot baskets on the outside courts, then at lunch hed shoot more baskets, then Id have him for three hours, then hed go home, eat supper, and then be outside again shooting baskets.. From TIME's press release on the. While Obama rocketed to political prominence, his friend headed down the troubled road Obama had feared he was following. But generally, said the presidential biographer Doris Kearns Goodwin, It does seem like these presidents need to find a sanctuary whether its a place or a group of people where they can just be themselves and feel the connection from the present to the past. High school friends who predate adulthood and professional attainments often know each others siblings, parents, even grandparents and know each other in a way that later friends often cannot. He has ethnic Chinese mother and his father was Polish. That's where I'd been headed: the final, fatal role of the young would-be black man," Obama wrote in "Dreams." Rik Smith, a black Punahou student two years older than Obama, remembers a Halloween when white students would dress as slaves, coming to school in tattered clothes with their faces painted black with shoe polish. But twice that year the group gathered in Hawaii in August before the Democratic National Convention and in December after Mr. Obamas election. The motorcade arrived in Kapolei around 11:30 a.m. ___ She also sent advice about his future. "And we were told he had already moved away." They were joined by two other teenagers - his best friend Greg Orme and date Kelli McCormack. Magazines, Digital ---------- Kirsten Scharnberg reported from Honolulu and Kim Barker from Jakarta, Indonesia; Tribune staff reporter Ray Gibson contributed to this report. Asked Saturday about Kakugawa's recollections, the Obama campaign declined to make the senator available. Obama, who has talked and written so much about struggling to find a sense of belonging due to his mixed race, brushes over this time of his life in "Dreams." Titcomb, who golfed another two days with Obama this month before the others got into town, was a year behind Obama at Punahou. These previously unpublished photos, obtained exclusively by TIME from Obamas schoolmate Kelli Allman (ne McCormack), show a 17-year-old Barack Obama on the night of his senior prom. It was hard to imagine that he felt that way, because he just seemed happy all the time, smiling all the time, she said. "We'd all do things together, but Obama was never there," Smith said, adding that they often brought along the few other black underclassmen. A spokeswoman for People said the reporter, West Coast correspondent Maureen Harrington, did not take the list. But Orme is a hard man to find. He said Obama may have come across as easy going, but he was no pushover. TIME Exclusive: President Obamas 1979 Prom Photos. Those are qualities a president should have. All three live mostly private lives when they're not being photographed with the commander in chief. Barack in the Student Life section of Punahou Schools yearbook. But absent from those discussions, they say, was another student then known as Barry Obama. Allman also gaveTIME a snapshot of Obamas yearbook entry to her. Murdaugh is heckled as he leaves court, Missing hiker buried under snow forces arm out to wave to helicopter, Incredible footage of Ukrainian soldiers fighting Russians in Bakhmut, Fleet-footed cop chases an offender riding a scooter, Two Russian tanks annihilated with bombs by Ukrainian armed forces, Isabel Oakeshott clashes with Nick Robinson over Hancock texts, Dozens stuck in car park as staff refuses to open gate for woman, Insane moment river of rocks falls onto Malibu Canyon in CA. "Barry liked to draw heroes." In one family photo before the mother and son moved to Indonesia, Obama walks barefoot on Waikiki Beach, arms outstretched as though embracing the entire beautiful life around him. "He never verbalized any of that," Orme said during a telephone interview from his home in Oregon. ', In his memoir, 'Dreams From My Father,' Obama recalled a high school career that was, for the most part, ordinary 'marginal report cards and calls to the principal's office; part-time jobs at the burger chain; acne and driving tests and turbulent desire. Corky Siemaszko is a senior reporter for NBC News Digital. 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His biggest struggles were his feelings of abandonment. The idea that his biggest struggle was race is [bull]." Get-togethers in the decades after high school were rare as the men built careers and families, although Mr. Ramos, Mr. Titcomb and Mr. Orme attended the Obamas Chicago wedding in 1992. "But it wasn't a race thing," he said. As a subscriber, you have 10 gift articles to give each month. Bobby Titcomb Photos Photos - US President Barack Obama repares to putt on the 18th green as friend Greg Orme retrieves his ball and Darell Harrington (2nd R) and Bobby Titcomb (R) look on at the . I know that was hard for him.". Some, like Bill Clinton and Ronald Reagan, counted later acquaintances among political donors as friends. If this story is eight paragraphs, seven of them go to Greg. Hes kind of in and out. He always made time to see his old coach I didnt play him as much as I should have and he had every right to say 'Ill show you coach.' "In the absence of his father, there was not a kinder, more understanding man than Stanley Dunham. Since January, more than a dozen news organizations from around the globe, from the BBC to TV Asahi to People magazine, have dispatched reporters to Oahu. Not one of `the brothers' As much as young Obama stood out physically in the classrooms of Indonesia, so, too, did he at Punahou School, the elite private prep academy his mother moved him back to Hawaii to attend. News. That first year, Mr. Ramos said, I remember coming home from a golf outing and literally starting to cry, so emotional was the contrast he felt between their friendships and the transactional ones he said he had since formed as a businessman. Obama, the son of a black father and white mother, stood out. The three men - Mike Ramos, Bobby Titcomb and Greg Orme - are among the few people still in Obama's life who knew him long before he was famous. Zulfan Adi was one of the neighborhood kids who teased Obama most mercilessly. I would go out there and be the only white person. After their relationship, she went on to marry a Serbian Boxer named Bob Bozic who once tried to rob $60,000 from a bank. Obama wrote in the lengthy yearbook note. "We live in a world of bullies and the U.S. has been bullied around. Obama and his mother joined her new husband, a kind man who later would become a detached heavy drinker and womanizer, family members in Indonesia say. But asked what he believes Obamas biggest accomplishment was, he had a ready answer. He added: "I can't say that I've avoided all, or any, of these hazards successfully." Hawaii is a melting pot, a very intense place if youre a kid. "He was just one of those perfect [ethnic] mixes of everything you see in Hawaii." Mr Obama has remained close to Mr Orme over the years. , updated In his best-selling autobiography, "Dreams from My Father," Obama describes having heated conversations about racism with another black student, "Ray." So far, the candidacy of the man known by his high school friends as Barry Obama has been good for the Hawaii economy and bad for newsroom budgets. remembered Ati Kisjanto, 45. Most classmates and teachers recall an easygoing, slightly chunky young man, with the same infectious smile he sports today. Like Obama, Topolinski had to straddle a racial divide. 'It was a really fun, happy time,' she said. He played on the beach. If young Obama had struggled to find a place at Punahou, it was well hidden on this day as well. Obama is playing golf with three of his friends, Mike Ramos, Bobby Titcomb and Greg Orme. With his friends, he would drive the Choomwagon, a Volkswagen microbus, to Mount Tantalus, biographer David Maraniss wrote. 'You are extremely sweet and foxy, I don't know why Greg would want to spend any time with me at all!' And he clearly didn't appreciate that," Orme said. Or f------ Eskimo." The annual gatherings perhaps speak to Mr. Obamas greater need for their connection now that he has what is called the loneliest job in the world. Titcomb has worked as a commercial fisherman and an airline employee, according to the school's alumni magazine. HONOLULU -- Until recently, the players on Hawaiis 1979 state basketball championship team thought their glory days were behind them, consigned to yearbooks and faded newspaper clippings. In the 2004 presidential campaign, both John F. Kerry and President Bush were embroiled in disputes over their Vietnam-era records, controversies that were stoked by the conflicting recollections of people who knew them. Bendix said he and Obama stayed in touch and he was at his 2008 inauguration. Madelyn Dunham, a rising executive at the Bank of Hawaii during Obama's Punahou days, was more reserved but seemed to love having her grandson's friends over to play and hang out. She also shared a complimentary note that Obama had written in her high school yearbook. Cook, who was 25, and Obama, then 22, dated for 18 months, passing their time discussing books and cooking. While the foursome gets together in Hawaii over the holidays each year, Titcomb, Orme and Ramos. These have been the stories told about the first two character-shaping decades of U.S. Sen. Barack Obama's life, a story line largely shaped by his own best-selling memoir, political speeches and interviews. "He was a very provocative thinker. Thats when we see each other. Yet those who knew him disputed that during recent interviews. The attention on Obamas time at Punahou -- a country club campus with nine tennis courts, an Olympic-size pool and an endowment of $180 million -- represents the next important challenge for a celebrity politician who leapt onto the national stage with a few swift strides. Kelli Allman is the pretty redhead pictured in the photo. "All of them were imperfect but all of them loved him fiercely, and I believe he took the best qualities from each of them." 'We were all cracking up, and everyone was smiling.'. But he seemed to have coped pretty well.. The 1979 photo was snapped inside the home of former classmate, Kelli Allman, who was the prom date of the pr, Fashion alert! In snapshots, the boy is a portrait of childhood bliss. 'The sexual warmth is definitely there,' Cook wrote in her journal. Then, one day about a year after he had arrived, Obama was gone. If only I had saved that Nerf hoop we used to dunk on. President-elect Barack Obama and friend Greg Orme wait to warm up on the driving range to play golf with friends December 29, 2008 in Kailua, Hawaii.. President-elect Barack Obama hugs friend Greg Orme before a round of golf December 29, 2008 at the Mid Pacific Country Club in Kailua, Hawaii. Instead, the chemicals had peeled off much of his skin, leaving him sad and scarred, Obama recalled. Obama, he said, was especially adept at knowing how to build relationships. He said it puzzles him that, as president, Obama was often accused of failing to reach out to political opponents. "Stanley loved that little boy," said Abercrombie, now a Democratic congressman from Hawaii. What America's Richest Ski Town's Handling of COVID-19 Shows. Greg? Hes off the grid, said Hale, who is now the schools head basketball coach. One day while visiting his mother, who was working at the U.S. Embassy in Jakarta, Obama passed time by looking through several issues of Life magazine. In an interview with the Tribune on Saturday, Kakugawa said he always considered himself mixed race, like so many of his friends in Hawaii, and was not an angry young black man. They were. I guarantee he would have won a third term if he could have run again. Cook wrote that she saw his perfect woman as 'very strong, very upright, a fighter, a laugher, experienced - a black woman I keep seeing her as'. "I did say we were playing in their world," he explained, "but that had nothing to do with race. Our coaches were much more conservative, he said. But the reality felt far different for the handful of African-Americans attending classes there. He rode a bright blue tricycle with red, white and blue streamers dangling from the handlebars. Throughout his youth, as depicted in his first book, he always found ways to meld into even the most uninviting of communities. They marked the 10th year of their rendezvous by looking through old photos, Mr. Ramos said, of when the kids were young and the dads had dark hair. And of course, he said, they all the president included reflected on the past year. "But it was only playing." For most of their high school years, Orme and Obama lived and loved basketball, even if their hours of practice never translated into much playing time on game day. KAILUA, HI - DECEMBER 29: (AFP OUT) U.S. President-elect Barack Obama and friend Greg Orme (R) wait to warm up on the driving range to play golf with friends December 29, 2008 in Kailua, Hawaii. Their. The perfect tummy control bodysuit, a popcorn gadget, more bestsellers starting at $8. "Suddenly we asked, `Where's Barry?' Obama and his date Megan Hughes, a student at the Hawaii School for Girls at La Pietra, joined Orme at Allmans house, where the two couples sipped champagne before going to the dance and then an after-party. Maurer, who played ball with Obama from the seventh grade through their senior year, said Julius Erving, better known as Dr. J, was their basketball hero. The White House says Obama teed off Saturday at the nine-hole course at the Sunnylands retreat in Rancho Mirage with childhood friends Bobby Titcomb, Greg Orme and Michael Ramos. FILE - In this Dec. 29, 2014 file photo, President Barack Obama, center, walks during a round of golf with Greg Orme, left, and Mike Ramos, on the 18th hole of the Mid Pacific Country Club in . The foursome, according to the Associated Press, teed off with another eight players. The fun may wear off, if history is any guide. The fourth person in the picture is Obama's date,Megan Hughes. But after practice theyd hit the public courts. And while they did enjoy marijuana, Mr. Ramos acknowledged, we played a lot more basketball than we smoked pot.. On his senior yearbook page, he left behind these words: We go play hoop.. ", Every day after practice hed stay to play pickup games against the coaching staff," he said. Obama and his. Hes exhibited class and dignity all the way through it. But those talks, Kakugawa said, were not about race. With Obama just days away from turning over the reins to Donald Trump, Coach Mac and some of the guys young Barry played ball with at their Honolulu prep school reflected on his presidency and their playing years with pride. Use of this site constitutes acceptance of our, Digital One place Obama has said he found a sense of community was on the basketball court. WASHINGTON President Obama has called Hawaii his refuge, and so it has been throughout his political life. 'You really deserve better than clowns like us; you even laugh at my jokes! "It was a really fun, happy time. He also was one of the only neighborhood children whose parents enrolled him in a new Catholic school in an area populated almost entirely by Betawis, the old tribal landowning Jakarta natives who were very traditional Muslims. In a newly unearthed photo published Thursday in TIME magazine, a 17-year-old Barack Obama is seen wearing a white dinner jacket as he poses with friends on the night of their senior prom in Hawaii. He was always very focused.. Oblivious to all of this was a perpetually smiling toddler the entire family called Barry. Here is how some of Obamas former teammates and coaches remember those years: To understand President Obama, you have to understand his Hawaiian roots, Maurer said. He said they adored his slam-dunking style and no-look passing, but their coaches were not fans. The three men - Mike Ramos (right), Bobby Titcomb (not pictured) and Greg Orme (left) - are among the few people still in Obama's life who knew him long before he was famous. Outside of their regular vacation activities, the First Couple (along with Vice President Biden and Dr. Jill Biden) released their holiday playlists. From his earliest moments on the national political stage, Obama has presented himself as having two unique qualifications: a fresh political face and an ability to bridge the gap between Americans of different races, faiths and circumstances. He didnt have to see me, but he was a man of his word, he said. IE 11 is not supported. Others almost certainly illustrate how carefully the young man guarded the secret of his loneliness from even those who knew him best. Mr. Obama and the others often would visit family members there at Christmas and on occasion the men would meet, but it was not until 2004 that they agreed to gather annually. "Junkie. The havoc time wreaks on fashion spares no one, not even the president of the United States.In a newly unearthed photo published Thursday in TIME magazine, a 17-year-old Barack Obama is seen. They were like brothers, says Allman. When it rained, Obama and his pals went bowling, instead. Far less is known about Obama's buddies, of course, than about the president himself. The man is staggering and numb but eventually pulls out forgotten dignity from under his flaking coat,/And walks a straight line along the crooked world.. They divorced after seven years of marriage and have a daughter. When his mother, a woman said to have been born with a keen sense of wanderlust, announced she was returning to Indonesia, Obama, then a teenager, asked to stay in Hawaii, according to Soetoro-Ng, 36, who still lives in Honolulu. He said he does recall long, soulful talks with the young Obama and that his friend confided his longing and loneliness. He would bring up worldly topics far beyond his years. Hawaii friends Bobby Titcomb and Greg Orme, Punahou Academy classmates, were also on hand. "You need to find Greg Orme," instructed Obama's old basketball coach, Chris McLachin. After graduating in 1979, Maurer wound up at Stanford where he made the team as a walk on and found God. Hopefully now that hes done well get to see each other more, he said. When a friend gave him shrimp paste instead of chocolate, he yelled, "Curang, curang!" So far, this process has not yielded anything especially damaging to Obamas candidacy. His love for Michelle and Sasha and Malia is outstanding. Only Mr. Titcomb stayed in Hawaii. Meanwhile, the search continues for Obamas closest high school friends -- the self-proclaimed Basketball Jones, who raced around the island in Darin Maurers two-toned beige VW van with the band Earth, Wind and Fire blaring from the cassette deck. "Looking back now, I'd say he really is kind of the perfect combination of all of them," said his half sister, Maya Soetoro-Ng. Back then, Punahou was a completely open campus, with several basketball courts where 20-something men from Honolulu would come in the late afternoon for what often turned into flashy, highly competitive pickup sessions. According to the book, the characters representing Orme and the other friend asked to leave the party after just an hour, saying they felt out of place. Obama also made golf outings,. Hes been so gracious to him.. One of those kids was Orme, a smart, respectful teenager from a white, middle-class family. Their new neighborhood was only 3 miles to the west, but a world away. There was his mother, Ann, a brilliant but impulsive woman; his grandmother Madelyn, a deeply private and stoically pragmatic Midwesterner; his grandfather Stanley, a loving soul inclined toward tall tales and unrealistic dreams. I don't know why Greg would want to spend anytime with me at all! In a striking snapshot with his grandparents, Stanley smiles proudly while Madelyn hugs him fiercely, as though she doesn't want to let him go forth into a world far from the remote island that for so long had been his home. Right around then, we really started getting into basketball., Obama was all business when it came to "the game. Obama and his family have been in his native Hawaii since December 20 for the Christmas holiday. "He'd go right up to the coach during a game and say, `Coach, we're killing this team. We could all be hotheads at times, but he was very diplomatic, he said. Not many presidents retained friendships from as far back as high school, although George W. Bush had close friends from his prep school days at Andover. He's lived in Colorado, but was listed as a North Carolina resident when in 2012 he attended a state dinner at the White House that Obama held for British Prime Minister David Cameron. Millions of American teenagers will go to proms this year. ", Ive known Barry since the fifth grade, he said. In Hawaii, our diversity defines us, it doesnt divide us, said Rep. Neil Abercrombie (D-Hawaii), a close friend of Obamas father in graduate school in the early 60s. Im incredibly proud of my friend. Or Hawaiian. While Obama got saddled with the nickname Barry OBomber, Maurer said he also "got teased a lot for taking hard to make shots.". As it made its way over the mountain pass, he took in views of the lush, green and misty Koolau mountains. After years during which the friends grew apart, Mr. Obama reconnected with Mike Ramos, Bobby Titcomb and Greg Orme a decade ago. He was the only foreign child in the neighborhood. Bailey, who coached Obama during his junior year and now runs an ambulance service, said young Barry was a "gym rat. "I brood," Mr. Obama's friend Mr. Ramos said a few years ago. "There's no doubt that Keith's story is tragic and sad," Burton added. "He liked drawing Spider-Man and Batman," said another friend, Widiyanto Hendro Cahyono, 46. He remembers one day when young Obama, a hopelessly upbeat boy who seemed oblivious to the fact that the older kids didn't want him tagging along, followed a group of Adi's friends to a nearby swamp. After a recent lunch with a reporter, he winked at a table of faculty-lounge colleagues and joked, This one is with Playgirl.. Barry was a very confident player who liked to drive to the basket. 'But the rest of it has sharp edges, 'Tho he speaks sweet words and can be open and trusting, there is also that coolness - and I begin to have an inkling of some things about him that could get to me.'. On the lower half of the seventh-grade page is the same group, under a heading of Useless Races in America. The joke, it seems, is on intolerance. Because of his biracial heritage, he said, he was "like everyone in Hawaii, a mix of a lot of things." Topolinski laughed when he recalled how they both tried out for the schools football team. Barry spent his days at the Punahou School in Hawaii studying, shooting hoops and goofing off with his friends. So neither of us ever started and that was hard, he said. For much of their childhoods, Orme and Obama were more like brothers than buddies, constant companions both on and off the basketball court who even double-dated on senior prom night. "The brothers," as Lewis Anthony Jr., an African-American in the class of 1977 put it, hung out together, often talking about issues involving race and civil rights. Then his young mother, now divorced, met and married an Indonesian student studying at the University of Hawaii. I get one, maybe.. We didnt aim high enough., Every time I see him on television its surreal, said Topolinski. Obama spent the weekend in California after meeting Friday at a resort with Jordan's king. From left: Greg Orme, Kelli Allman, Barack Obama and Megan Hughes at Allmans parents house in Honolulu. Having their back. I hadnt seen him for 30 years.. They got back in touch when she visited New York in 1982, before continuing a long-distance relationship that eventually fizzled out, according to his biographer David Maraniss. He had friends there, he was comfortable there, and to a kid his age, that's all that mattered." For an optimal experience visit our site on another browser. By Franklin D. Roosevelt made frequent trips back to Hyde Park, N.Y., throwing picnics or barbecues for former neighbors and friends, and George H.W. Anyone can read what you share. "His friends called him `Negro,' " Darmawan said. Although the Choom Gang has come to define Mr. Obamas high school circle owing partly to the presidents memoir, Dreams From My Father, and a notation that Mr. Obama made in his senior yearbook thanking the group for good times Mr. Ramos said in an interview after leaving Oahu this week that the phrase does not describe their circle. The other kids would scrap with him sometimes, but because Obama was bigger and better-fed than many of them, he was hard to defeat. This is my man! a delighted Obama said, Maurer recalled. . The number at Dunhams apartment in a nondescript Honolulu high rise has not changed in more than a quarter-century. But it was on the court in the off-season that Obama seemed to be even happier. I really admire that.. The president was returning to the White House on Monday. The Latest: Obamas, friends tour Hawaii Islamic arts center Allman said that she thought highly of Obama, who was 'very intelligent and witty'. In his day, he was a better basketball player than a golfer. "It just wasn't a race thing," he reiterated again and again. For an optimal experience visit our site on another browser. 00:53 GMT 31 Dec 2014 I was certainly oblivious to a lot of what he references, Hale said in an interview. He was loving and generous." A close friend and track teammate of Kakugawa, John Hagar, also said he was surprised by Obama's description of the character representing Kakugawa as an angry young black man. Since arriving more than a week ago, Obama has been out in public with one of his daughters only once, briefly, during a hike. "They held his hands and feet and said, `One, two, three,' and threw him in the swamp," recalled Adi, who still lives in the same house where he grew up. We have so many tones of brown here. Kakugawa explained that he had meant they were playing in the world of the elite people who populated and ran Punahou--famous Hawaiian families like the Doles, owners of the pineapple fortune, or the original developers of Waikiki, the tourist mecca. It was a really fun, happy time. I loved his game," he said. We played a lot of playground ball.. Its good for me, pre-Alzheimers, to try and remember this stuff, he said, struggling to recall something other than Obamas love for basketball and his improbable hook shot. Obama is spending the weekend golfing with Punahou School friends Greg Orme, Bobby Titcomb and Mike Ramos ahead of a summit of Southeast Asian leaders at the Sunnylands estate in Rancho. There are, however, chapters in Obamas high school narrative that are not subject to dispute. It took about five hours for the president and his playing partners Bobby Titcomb, Greg Orme, and Darrell . With rain drizzling over Oahu, Obama's motorcade whisked Obama across the island to Titcomb's beachside home in Waialua, about an hour outside of Honolulu on the North Shore. Im a Republican, but Ill endorse Barry for anything he wants, said Tom Topolinski, who backed his old buddy twice and voted this time for Trump.